Why do some women dress sexy, showing off their cleavage and body, but get mad when guys stare?
Sexy Mila Kunis
That’s what a guy wanted to know on a forum called Date Hookup.
One woman replied,
Women don’t dress sexy for ya’ll to stare at…women dress sexy to make other women jealous.
But most said they wanted men to look, “but not too much.”
Just because she wants the attention doesn’t mean she wants a guy to be a perv about it. Looks… yes… comments and prolonged obvious stares…NO
Curious as to what my women students would say, I asked them.
I surveyed 25 women in my “women’s psych” class and 24 more in my “intro to women’s studies” course. I had them rank a variety of choices on a scale of 1 to 10, one being low agreement and 10 being high.
The women in both classes answered very similarly. Mostly, they wanted to get attention and feel good about themselves, as in “People notice me and think I’m attractive.”
That’s probably because most of us have been taught that our worth depends on our looks.
Okay, but how is that divided? Do they care more about how men see them, how women see them, or how society/the world sees them?
My students were evenly divided among the three categories. About one-third were focused on women’s perceptions, one-third dressed sexy because society/the world values attractive women, and another third were focused on men. Notably, the easiest way to get feedback on whether you look attractive by society’s standards is to see how men react.
Did anyone want to look attractive so that men would be nicer to them and do them favors? Yes. About 1/5 did.
Another fifth enjoyed having a large choice of partners.
And one-third wanted to attract the interest of a particular person.
When I asked whether women dressed sexy because they enjoyed men’s desire and were turned on by it, nearly all of them ranked that a “1.” One gave it a “0” with exclamation points!!!!!!!! The only exception was women who desired the lust of a particular man who they were attracted to. They did want his desire, and got aroused by it.
So that’s what my students say about why they dress sexy.
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